#78

‎I miss u n ur crazy family. U def a genuine person n if we went fifty years without speaking I know we'd be able to pick up right where we left off like always! Oh n ur the best Tinkerbell ever!!

I’m usually annoyed by this game on Facebook. It’s where you message a number to someone. And they post a comment on their page, with just the secret number you sent them. To say how they really feel about you… I guess it’s not that annoying if you play. Fun to see your number come up.

I gave #78 to a good friend. Someone who once was a co-worker of my husband and mine, and I continued to work with her years later. This comment made my night.

I’ve always said, to be a true friend of mine. You need to understand that I will build a relationship with you. Either over a coarse of one night, a few months or years. IF we do not speak for years, but come across each other, and can just pick up, as if it was last week when we last visited. I KNOW you are a true friend to me.

So to you my dear friend…

Your honesty has always made you one of my favorite people. You accept me for me. You hold a place in my heart, with all my other pick right back up friends. Long live the Empress Cage Crew!!

JCat

Me Time

Crucial.

I don’t function with out it. Not sure how anyone can. Needless to say I LOATHE when people say “I don’t have the time”… yes. you. do. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. It’s what YOU chose to do with YOUR day, is what makes the difference.

I have to say, hearing people say “I don’t MAKE the time” is a big difference, the the prior statement. It’s admitting that you COULD make the time. They just don’t. At least they admit it.

I have this rule. Me first.

Sounds incredibly greedy, and selfish. Especially for a mother of two. Well if you don’t take care of yourself, I think, especially for me, it shows in how I mother, how I treat my husband and others, and how I feel over all.

I suffered with Post Partum Depression, most of the time, with out even realizing it. It wasn’t till after my son was born, 22 months after my daughter, I realized I might have issues. I never did see anyone about it. Never took medication. I used the self help of calling one of my closest friends on the planet. (and who has put up with me for 28 years) Maternal Mirth (who is a VERY awesome witty blogger) has 3 kids, and twins on the way. From someone who was a single mom at 19, I’ve taken her raising kids advice before I had kids myself.

She talked to me, taught me to blog, to be a better writer, a calmer person, to take the time and write it down. I did. I chose to write notes to Blue when I was crazy PPD. Notes he still has. THOSE helped me. (even though looking back I was a babbly idiot, but what ever worked, I did.)

Alright, back to the subject. If you think I’ve got it easier because I’m a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) your wrong. I’m not saying ‘Me Time’ has to be hours of baths with a glass of wine, or spa days away.

What do I consider “Me Time”…

• Blogging. (can be done with 3 year old around. You may proof read it 8 times, because you keep getting interrupted)
• Commenting, reading blogs (also may need to be read 8 times… but you can usually sneak in a post or two)
• Facebook/Twitter/Pinterest/Shutterfly. All internet crack for me, BUT. Do not think I sit on the internet all day. I allow myself treats of 5-10 minute breaks, either between laundry, dishes, floors, bathrooms… it’s a reward for me.
• T.V. shows. (I don’t have a TON of shows, I have Tuesdays and Wednesdays that I love to watch my shows)
• Reading a book. (Gasp. YES one made of paper. I take a few minutes to sneak in a few pages of whatever book I’m reading)
• Exercise. (This one for me is not really FUN Me Time, but it’s about Me, so I guess it could be in this list)
• Baths. (Necessary. Hot bath. About 45 minutes. LEAVE. ME. ALONE. Blue KNOWS it’s been a rough day for me, when he comes home and I’m headed for the tub)
• Extensive “Me Time” is when I get to go out with my mom, we go shopping in her downtown area (cute little shops where 3 and 5 year olds are frowned upon)
• Or when I get to chill with my bestie, J. She and I could hang out and chat for HOURS, after being on the phone for HOURS, and still could talk for more HOURS, but it’s usually 2 am by then!
• Scrapbooking/Painting/Drawing… ANY form of art is “Me Time” now this one I REALLY get the line “I NEVER HAVE TIME TO DO THAT!!” from people. Again, you MAKE the time to do what you like, what YOU want.

I have to say I love to do so many of my “Me Time” activities with my kids, reading, exercising, painting… it’s taking the time to do things BY. YOURSELF. makes you sane.

If you work, and yes I did for years. You can make “Me Time” too. Read on your lunch, paint on your lunch (I did, and everyone at work thought I was nuts. But a much happier then them nut!) get up earlier then you do. I swear by going to bed earlier, and getting up 45 minutes before the kids (not saying I get the whole 45 minutes kid free) makes a difference. Find that time, carve it out for you.

I personally have hobbies. Sure my kids have activities, and school, and I love spending time with my husband and family, but I don’t want to wait till my kids are grown, or I’m ‘retired’ to start enjoying MY hobbies. 

Balance is key.

I don’t quite have that yet. I some days spend more time creating then cleaning, or cleaning then creating. But in the end it all works out.

Take some “Me Time” for yourself. You would be AMAZED at how much better your day goes, how much better you feel, and how much better you treat people.

Have a “Me Time” day!

JCat.

Bullet style randomness

Nothing says a good post like being jacked up on coffee with no breakfast. This will be one of those bullet style posts… to much to say, to much caffeine in system to focus for more then a sentence, and GO…

• I forgot to eat breakfast today. Damn internet kept me away… somehow I managed to make coffee and feed the kids and pet though?
• I am a Shutterfly whore. LOVE them, LOVE their many coupons, LOVE I can use them all at once, LOVE their books and prints. Especially around the Holiday’s I am ONE with them. Daily.
• I’m so coffee jittery right now when I pause to think of what to type, I do that finger tapping thing, where I don’t push the keys but I just tap them… anyone else?
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• Linked my Twitter account @JCat_McGack to my FB page… pretty sure that will annoy people soon… but I’m not one to care… maybe…
• Excited I’m not tied down by a deadline today. Wednesday I was finishing up my BFF’s birthday present, a tote bag from her old t-shirt, and yesterday I was a zombie, but I still managed to spend 6 hours with Shutterfly to make a book, pick out my 75 free prints, make another project, and save a shitload of $$ my coupon crazy friends are proud.
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• I’ve been blog shopping. Not for a me personally, but for ones to read. I’m thinking I’ll be checking into SITS girls more often again, need more fuel…
• On that note, I’m happy to say my dear friend of 28 years has started blogging again. For the love of the blogosphere, there was a hole in our universe when she left…Maternal Mirth. Glad she’s back.
• I wish people would leave comments HERE on my posts… sigh… need to get blog friends to comment, can’t seem to rely on the real world people from Facebook no matter how many times I post my blog there… wankers. (unless you’re a FB friend and were going to comment… your not a wanker…)
• I need to clean Buzz’s room. There are toys everywhere… but I also dumped out a basket of clean clothes (2 months ago) and have yet to pick them up. We just get him dressed from the floor pile. (don’t judge.)
• I hope the Leappad’s we bought the kids are as cool as we think they will be. The only bad thing is they go by battery (BOOOOO) I bought rechargeable ones, but thinking we will break down and buy (yes separate) the wall plug
• 

bought Buzz the green one with Toy Story 3, and Cars game, plus a $20 app credit.

Tink is getting purple/pink one with Tangled game, and since she’s in school she gets Mr. Pencil game. (they can share them) and a $20 app card for her too.

• Oh my Cannon point and shoot that I’ve had for 9 months has no flash… that is awesome for night time, and indoor pictures. For paparazzi's sake, someone just buy me a nice camera already. Sigh.
• Excited to host Christmas this year for Blue’s family, small gathering of about 30 people… yikes.
• Now getting stabby… must eat… early lunch? Late breakfast? A bit of both…
  

Happy Saturday, leave a comment. Pffftt.

JCat McGack

Sophie Gets Snug

FINALLY!

I got Sophie to sit down in the basement with Buzz…

This is a big deal for me, because since we’ve lost our Maggie, Sophie’s sister, 7 months ago, Sophie gets lonely when we all go to the basement with out her.

BUT since the basement is 1/2 art room, which is heavily guarded by our two cats, Jordan and Chloe, (these two chose to decorate the rest of the house… so lets just say they found a new home.. in the art room)

And the other 1/2 of the basement is the kids toy room

Not a whole lot of room for Sophie… but like you see here, there is a HUGE futon, and MORE then enough space for Sophie to lay with Buzz while Tink is at school.

Call it a small accomplishment, sure. But I’m happy Sophie is finally comfortable hanging out down here with us… probably helped that Buzz had snacks to share…

Happy Thursday!

JCat McGack

Messy Pee Pee and Poo Poo

This story is for the SITS girls, they are doing a wonderful giveaway with Clorox Bleach, giving away a $750 Canon Rebel Camera *wipes drool from mouth*

Here is the info you need to know…

I received information about Clorox’s Bleach It Away campaign and am sharing my messy moment for the chance to win prizes from The SITS Girls. To learn more about the messy moment program, check out www.BleachItAway.com.  Sharing your story on the Clorox fan page gets you entered for the chance to win $25,000 and daily prizes, and you can grab a coupon for Clorox® Regular Bleach.

With all that being said, I went blog surfing and found my best messy story to share…

Pee Pee and Poo Poo

June 2009

Potty Training: Day 3

This is insanity.

I repeat. Insanity.

Tink is 3 years old and I am desperately trying to potty train her and I think we are close to ‘getting it’. We are at a point where she is NOT holding it in for 3 days, like she has done in the past. SO I consider any effort to pee either on the potty chair or on the floor as progress.

BUT while trying to potty train, I still must attend to the almost 14 month old crazy man, we call Buzz. He’s a good boy, but let’s just say I’m quickly learning how boys are so much different then girls!

Buzz was awake from his nap, and before I go up to get him from his crib I as Tink if she has to go potty. (since this will take a few minutes to be away from her, and she hadn’t gone yet on the potty today) She said, ‘No’ No? You sure? Try one more time? Ok, I will be RIGHT. BACK.

So I go up the stairs, to get Buzz, I can hear him in his crib, talking to his toys. I open the door to a nudist.

Diaper removed. Full of poop.as I walk into the room,  the diaper bomb is tossed over the crib rail to the floor with a gross thud.

The boy is covered, and I’m talking covered in poop like camouflage paint. His hair, streaks on his face, legs, and chest. (the toys were spared by being tossed out of the crib earlier in the attempt to nap)

Then while my mouth is still agape *note there is no shock here, this is nothing new, Tink was a pro at the dirty diaper dumpling art work, in her early days. But it’s still a jaw dropper at that*  the little guy smiles at me with all 5 of his little teeth, does the crazy baby head shake (we all have seen it)

Then, he stands up to the rail, sticks his little penis out the bars and pees on the carpet.

What!?!?!?!

I shit you not, while all the poo grenade diaper flinging, crazy head shaking, and random carpet watering is going on, Tink is down stairs screaming...

"I HAVE TO PEE!! EEEEEEEEEE!!!!!"

Jeez o' Pete, really?! You have GOT to be kidding me… Right now?

So I look over at Buzz and think he’s contained in his crib, and he can't really make to much more of a mess can he? So I BOLT down the stairs to see Tink getting ready to go potty.

She is squatting, such a proud moment… till I notice she’s next to the potty chair peeing on the floor.

... sigh...

Thanks kids. What a way to start out the morning. Believe me that is first date material right there, now I just need to scrapbook it to make it complete.

 

JCat McGack

I took a bath… I day dreamed…

I've got idea's... good ones...

I day dreamed about my dream home. It will have a two story library... FILLED with books, and magazines. The first and second floor will be open to each other. The second floor with a wrap around hallway, a winding stair case to get to it. It will be in the front of the house and will have a HUGE bowed out window on the first floor that will also be on the second. The second will have a bench seat with a table. Like a nook, to read or write in. The fist for two BIG chairs. 

On the second floor there will be a bathroom right off the library... so I can take a bath and read of coarse! 

This is when you walk in the front door, one of the first doors in the hallway... go down the hall to see the sun room, where the breakfast nook with some chairs for lounging are at. To the right is my amazing kitchen, details to follow...

Off the kitchen is my art room... I dream of a two story art room... so now this room is the length of the house front to back... it will have FLOOR to ceiling windows in the front and all over the room for the best light an artist could want. The front of the room will be a HUGE table, so big it has a space in the middle for me to sit on a stool, or to display... like the art room in High school... it will be in sections. The front area here, will be all pink... white and pink... black floor through out.

The walls will be covered in white shelves, drawers and nooks. This will be were all paper, accessories, fabric and tools will be stored. Beautiful and right where I can see it all. Mostly paper crafting on this floor...

The back, still with windows, but this area will be purple in color. My favorite. It will host another large desk but about the size of a HUGE dining room table. This is MY desk. Where I will create and work. My counter behind me for tools...

I dream of along the outside wall of screens... little holes... made for cats... where they can come and go... from the art room to their room... their room? Yes next to the art room will be a screened in (with windows to close when it's chilly) but this area will be where my cats love to lounge... see I'm allergic... and it wouldn't work to have the cats in the whole house... but this room is SO big, and two stories, plus the cat/sun porch that they have MORE then enough freedom.
The sun room off the art room will be teal in color... it will have a small kitchen off of it. That is for the art room and for the sun room to use... a bathroom as well... this room is for day dreaming, for relaxing, for time outs. This room will have a spiral staircase in the corner... it will go upstairs to a beautiful porch. This porch will have a hammock, And more space for relaxing... going BACK into the art room, the second floor now.

The kids will have their section up here. Where they can create, paint, discover and make. This will be where I can paint, work with clay (oh my kiln is up here too!) paper mache' and make messes!

There will be a regular staircase of some sort to get from floor to floor in the art room... not sure where yet... 

Go back downstairs, through the sun room, and in the sun room is a door to outside... where there is a patio... off that patio there is a garden... a fairy garden, a beautiful garden full of humming birds, and butterflies. Where lightning bugs dance at night, and lights are in the trees.

There off the patio is a stair case down... down to the deck where the crazy family lives. Where you leave the world of creativity to the world of family, fun and relaxing....

11/5/2011

Freedom

If you’ve been keeping up here, you know that recently we (my family and I) found out about an App for iPad users to speak for them. To get up to speed check out this post and come back… I’ll wait here…

Now that your up to speed, and you realize that it’s been 15 years, yes HALF of my sisters life has been silenced by her muscle disorder. Dystonia.

Until today.

The 4 of us piled into the van (it’s an hour away to our destination). It’s a Cat family adventure. We’ve taken MANY of these adventures, they are Frances adventures, for almost 6 years we searched for what was wrong with her, and after finding out the one word ‘Dystonia’ we then searched for a cure… there is none, but that didn’t stop us from our adventures. We went on to search for more knowledge of it, how to adapt to it, how to work with it, and how to make it better.

For YEARS, we insisted Frances would talk again. We knew she would. Our brains just wouldn’t let us think she wouldn’t. We tried Botox injections in her neck… not with a hard needle, but a soft bendy needle that she needed to have put in about 5-7 different injections around her neck. It was so painful she would squeeze my hand, I quickly learned to take off any rings. (after she squeezed my wedding ring right into my finger)

After a year of Botox injection, she was clear for DBS (Deep Brain Surgery) surgery, now years after the surgery, Frances is better with her Dystonia. Better as in she’s not twisted, bent over and contorted to the left at all times. But her ability to eat and drink is extremely difficult. Do me a favor… next time you try to eat or drink… don’t shut your mouth… you have to tilt your head, take miniature bites, and sips, and hope not to choke… that is how Frances eats and drinks.

And her speech is silenced.

Again, until today.

We walked into the Apple store. None of us owning anything newer then a iPod with a wheel on the front. Touch screens, and sliding screens, teaching my parents what an ‘App’ is (I’ve got a cell phone from Wal-Mart's pay monthly company) so it was ALL new to us.

As we all touched, and poked at these new machines, we laughed about how cool we were with our Apple II E WAY back in the day, and besides my iPod that is 4 years old, these are the ONLY two things we know about Apple.

We were greeted at the door by Megan. She was amazing. HOURS with us. Going over the Proloquo2Go app (they had one uploaded at the store. So we really got to see what this app was about) Megan has a cousin with Autism, so this was perfect. She knew this app well, and knew a site that had many other apps that talked for you, some under or around $5.00 too.

You could see that she knew how much this all meant to us.

It was between an iPod, or the iPhone… we were almost SURE we would pick the iPhone for Frances, it’s smaller, easier to carry… but she gave us a look and said no. And iPad is what she wanted. Bigger screen, easier to touch, and bonus the screen is so big our parents don’t need their reading glasses to read what Frances has typed (if she’s not going to have the iPad read it out loud)

I was SO excited for her, and I mean PUULLEEASSE, you KNOW I’d love to have an iPad myself, I tried to say I needed one too, just to help her learn to use it… that fell quickly on deaf ears.

So I did what I do best. Talked, and tried to take the iPad from my sister to show her what little I knew about it the app that I had googled online.

She promptly took it back. Gave me the finger. And quickly found the ‘Please be quiet’ button on the Proloquo2Go App… sigh. Well I wanted her to communicate so that is what I get!!

After hearing Frances talk through the app I looked at my mom with tears running down my face. She too was crying, and my dad was smiling. My sister had a grin from ear to ear, and that was when Megan and a manager started to hug us. They realized that this was not just a new toy for someone. It was changing a life.

It didn’t take long for us to quickly decide that this was it for Frances!

An iPad, Proloquo2Go App, a book like case to cover it.

I have to say we were amused at how fast it was to buy at the Apple store! You don’t go to a register, Megan had a small phone like device, slid the credit card right there, and my mom signed with her finger!

It doesn’t take much to entertain us, and this store, from it’s layout, to the devices in hand, the amounts of people pouring in to be helped and the HUGE amount of people working. It was a whole new world for us. And we were falling in love fast! (I was for sure!)

Now we, as in my parents and I. We’ve waited SO long to hear again what Frances was thinking. Blue has also never heard Frances. But we all probably agree the two people we want her to talk to… more than anyone… is Buzz and Tink.

Tink has already spent 5 years not hearing what Frances has to say, and Buzz 3.

It’s been hard for her to communicate with my kids. They can not read so her written, or typed out words were useless to my two, and with little and or no communication between them, their relationship was not what we all had wanted. Tink and Buzz love their Aunt, and talk of her often, they ask why she doesn’t talk, and I’ve explained. They accept her for who she is. And I’m hoping that they don’t remember the times when they couldn’t communicate with her.

So after a LONG day on our adventure, we come home, Tink and Buzz went crazy with questions to Frances. All we could do was smile and enjoy the conversation…

Frances talking to Buzz and Tink for the first time.

It was a huge day in our family history. I’m hoping to be interrupted, and told what my sister really thinks. I mean just think. ALL these years I’ve been the one doing all the talking. Jeez, I’m tired already. It’s time for Frances to have a voice.

Today was a day that we all know didn’t fix Frances’s voice, but what it did do is set her free.

JCat McGack

Halloween... in pictures...

We all know we love the blog posts that are full of fun pictures, and less words. Gives our brains a break. So here's our Halloween... in pictures... and few words...

Buzz doesn't attend school yet, so the library 'Story Time' was his party. He thought it was the best party. Ever. 

 Tink (the littlest blonde in the Snow Princess outift) was SO excited that I was a room mom for Halloween, she was awesome with her girlfriends, ALL princesses of some sort (what are the odds that her and her good friend Bella were BOTH Snow Princesses?) This makes me SO happy to see her with friends!

 I was 'Wonder Mom' simple, yes it tells you something. I'm awesome...

I spent about 4 hours with the above supplies to make the below Frankie boxes. YES I love paper crafts so the hours of work didn't bother me. It didn't matter that the kids destroyed them to get the candy out. The 8 room moms that were there saw them, and loved them and that's all that matters. 

We started this tradition with Blue, he likes to paint the pumpkins, so we thought the kids would too. And what kid doesn't LOVE to paint a mess all over a pumpkin?!

Blue painted the enemy team on his pumpkin. A Green Bay Slacker. And then after posing with the hammer we thought multiple steak knives through the head was a better idea... (note pumpkin was then moved to a VERY high shelf away from the kids)

 This little guy was starting to get soft, so I went all creative on him... cutting one hole for some fangs, and adding two thumb tacks... by the next day his lid caved in and the one tack eye was all mushed out.

 This was my big project. I love to carve this way and went with a BIG funny face...

This one was WAY easier then last years carving project...

See inspiration... Sophie...

See pumpkin that took me 3 hours and 2 pots of coffee!

So after a long October of being sick, we did enjoy the last week and a half of events. Hope your Halloween was safe, and full of more then enough candy!!

Jcat McGack